How long should you wait for rebound sex? That's a complicated answer, but we have
figured it out for you! We have all been there. We have had our heartbroken or we have
broken a heart or two.
You are single again. The world is basically yours ,but
what do you do now? How long should you wait until you have rebound sex? AdultHookups is
here to help you solve this age old mystery and make sure you are winning this break up!
Let's talk about the break up first of all. There are many many reasons why people decide that they no longer want to be with their significant other anymore. They might be a bad person, they might begin to annoy you, you might fall out of love with them. Sometimes, it's just the wrong time. Other times it is because of the fact that they could be cheating on you or maybe you are cheating on them. No matter what the reasoning is, break ups happen. They can be easy and they can be hard but either way, you are single now.
You need to understand that you are the one who [in most cases] is being set up to hurt someone. You need to be sensitive about their feelings. Unless they are a shitty person, than who cares, right? However, if you have just decided it's not working out anymore or that you are no longer in love with them, then you need to be kind about it. You need to do it in person. Be a good person and meet them in person. Sit them down, maybe take them to their favorite restaurant. Just never take them to your place. Always do it somewhere you can leave any chance you need to. Just be honest with them and tell them that your feelings have changed and that you don't want to waste anymore of their time by being with them. They deserve to be with someone who loves them and treats them the way they deserve and that is just simply not you. If you happen to get them a really nice and cute tiny break up gift, that also works.
You are alone now. Here is what you do. If you are a woman, you need to take this with a bit of pride. Even if your chest is bursting with pain, you need to push it down. Do not let them know that they have hurt you. If you need to ask a question, ask them what you can do to be better for the next person. You can always use this as a chance to learn about yourself. Then here is exactly what you need to do. You need to fix your makeup and start flooding your instagram with a myriad of photos of you having fun. The best revenge you can do is to show off that you are having the best life possible. If you need to cry, do it home alone or with a girlfriend or two. You need to show off how strong you are. If you are man who just got dumped, you can do the same thing, but instead show off all the sweet things you could have done with them with someone else. Snap photos of you ice skating with that girl she was always jealous of. It might seem petty but honestly, this is the best way to mess with a girl's heart. Show off what she is missing and what she never got from you.
Alright, now that the breaking up part is over with, now we can talk about how long you must wait before you start giving it to someone else. There are tons of different views on this scenario, we will give you the facts and you decide what works for you.
If you decide to hook up with someone the same day you break up, you are in sketchy territory. We all know how that worked out for Ross and the forever argument about whether or not you are on a break. This is douchebag territory, or worst, it's desperate territory. None of these are good looks and none of this will help you in the end. If you just got dumped and you jump into bed with somebody right away, you will look desperate and lonely. We aren't saying, don't go out and have fun and celebrate being single, but this will end up being a move that doesn't paint you in the best color.
Waiting 24 hours doesn't make you a good person, but it doesn't make you a bad person. You waited 24 hours, just in case one of you changes their mind and you get back together. However, you will know soon enough if that is something that will actually happen. Here is the deal with hooking up with someone the same day you dump them: You never come out looking good. From any angle. You either look like a psycho or a slut who can't keep it in their pants and only dumped the person just to hook up with someone else. If your ex decided that they want to get back together and this was a mistake, you end up looking like Ross from Friends and no one wants to be him. So, if you are ready for any of this, then go for it. Or avoid it and avoid all the drama that comes with it.
Waiting a week is the least you could do to not seem like a dick. This gives the chance to tell everyone that you are single. They can tell people they are single. It's no longer a secret. If it gets back to the other person that you have already hooked up, in theory, it won't be a blind siding issue. It'll still hurt that other person more likely, but you did wait a week and you did give them the space to grieve. This is probably the bare minimum you can wait so that you don't look like a dick for hooking up with someone else. This is a fairly good place to be. Any week after this is still fairly good for you.
Waiting a month is a very good time to wait. It might seem like a long time but it does give everyone a chance to make it known that they are single. They have a good chance to grieve without hearing any terrible stories. However, we also get that four weeks is a long time to go without sex. If you make it to here, then we give you nothing but props. A month is perfect, if you aren't a horn dog or if you want something serious, this is a good amount of time to wait. A lot of healing is done within the first month. This is a great amount of time to wait so that you don't look like a bad person.
Unless, you are one of those people who thinks that sex means way more than it does, this is a good timeframe for you. However, for everyone else, this is a long ass time to go without sex and that is crazy. We don't judge though, so you move at whatever pace works for you. This is more so for those of you out there who are the serial monogamous types. The ones who view sex as something that we should experience and it should have meaning. (A.K.A Boring People) However, if you are one of these people, we commend you. You are stronger than we are.
Here is the best part about being dumped. You don't need to wait a certain amount of time
until you rebound. I will give you some guidelines as to what you should follow but in
the end there is no select amount of time you need to wait.
You are the victim
here, you can move on as quickly as you want. Here are some guidelines that you can
choose to follow if you would like.
If you go out the same day you were dumped, you will look desperate to get even. If that is the plan, all the power to ya, but just know how it makes you look. Revenge sex, while super hot, is not a great idea. What if minds get changed, you will be the ex who jumped into the sack with someone you barely know just so can be even with your ex. This is not a good color to be painted in. Yes, you need to go out and have fun and post some extra sexy instagram pictures, but maybe pump the breaks on pumping a stranger. Within a week, you look like that person was easy to get over. This will hurt them so much more. You got over them so fast and they don't know what to do with themselves. Anytime after this, is up to you. We just want to make sure that you look empowered and that you don't look desperate. Remember when it comes to a rebound, you need to go with quality over quantity. You need to find someone who is hot as hell, and make it know through the grapevine that you two hooked up. The best punishment is always going out with someone hotter.
On a similar topic, and this goes across the board for everyone. Do not, and we repeat, DO NOT hook up with someone they are related to or friends with. This is not cool. No one wins when this happens. You need to rebound with someone random or with someone that they aren't close with. That is all that matters. You just need to be somewhat of a good person in this situation. If you dumped someone and then slept with their friends or family member, you look like a total dick and it will cause fights almost immediately. If you got dumped and you sleep with someone who is friends or family of your ex, you look crazy and desperate and this won't go the way you want. Especially, if you are a lady. The bro code will forever be a strong thing.
There is also the question about when you get dumped or you have dumped someone: Who rebounds first? Do you become a good person and don't rebound until the person you have dumped rebounds, or do you ignore everything and just do your own thing? There is no right answer here. That is the bummer part about this. Plus, how will you know who went first, unless you are displaying it for the world to see? Which, we all hope you are aren't doing. (Don't be that person.) The way we look at it, everyone moves at their own pace. If you decide to wait for them to go first, what if it takes them months? Do you really want to go without for that long? No! Just go at the pace that works for you and try to keep it to yourself or to your close friends. In the end, it doesn't matter at all. You do you!
In the end, it is up to you. Whatever length of time you feel you need, is the right time for you. There are no rules for this type of thing, so you are golden to do whatever you want. We just want to give you the facts so that you can be aware of what the consequences might be if you choose to sleep with someone else too early.
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