Is sleeping with your ex-partner ever really a good idea? Well, we are here to give you all the answers that you could need so that you can make an informed decision about whether or not you should have sex with your ex.

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This is a question that is as old as dating itself.

To know whether or not it is a good idea for you to sleep with your ex, we need to know why you broke up. All your answers might be answered right away. So, let's get down to breaking down why the two of you broke up! It doesn't matter if you are the dumper or the dumpee. You just need to know that there could be something very sexy there.

Cheating

If the reason you broke up was because they cheated on you, that sucks. That is a huge breach of trust. If you got cheated on, you need to think about things in a different light. Did they apologize? Was it just one time? Did you find out or did they confess? This is something you should be looking at. If they begged for forgiveness and it only happened one time and they are beaten up about it, that is one thing. But if they were a dick and you just happened to find out about it by accident or maybe it was an on-going thing that they felt bad about. But not bad enough for them to stop. That is a whole other story. You need to think about how much they hurt you. If it was a lot, then eff that noise! You do not need to give them any sort of satisfaction. If you aren't hurt and you just needed some space or something, then why not consider having sex with them again? It doesn't mean that you are going to get back together with them. but it is nice for you to maybe go back to something you know.

This isn't a breach of trust, but money problems are something that is huge when you are in a committed relationship. When the break up happened, how much did you two hate each other? Was it a major deal? Did they cost you money? Think about the scenario really hard. If they fucked up but it wasn't a horrible mess, or even if it was, you just need to see if your emotions lean further to one side.That will help you answer this question.

One of the major reasons that people break up is because they simply fell out of love with each other. This is no one's fault but not every relationship can make it past the honeymoon period. You fall out of love and you drift apart. This happens for so many reasons, but in the end it's usually a mutual feeling. This is actually great. They know your body well enough to please you, but you also fell out of love with them, so you know you won't all of a sudden fall back in love with them. You could just be casual hookups.

Hating each other is the other main reason that relationships end. People force themselves to stay together because they have been together for so long that it makes sense, or they have a kid together or something. There are too many reasons as to why people stay together when they obviously hate each other. The upside to this, is that you have been with someone who knows your body so well, it won't be a problem getting you off. However, you need to find out if you still hate them and what level of hate is it. That is important because there is a difference between hating someone and wanting to have hate sex with someone and it all comes down to, how much you hate them.

Now that we have gone over the the main reasoning for why you two broke up, now you need to think about whether or not it is a good idea.

There are a lot of areas you need to cover to be emotionally okay with having a casual hookup with an ex. Let's go over some of them to help paint you a more detailed portrait.

The best part of hooking up with an ex is that you are comfortable with them. They don't judge your body and you already know know that you can get off when you have sex with them. So, there is a level familiarity.

You don't have to worry about whether or not you look good naked. You don't have to worry about your skills or their skills. You know that you can do well when you hook up with them and they know how you like it. This is where it can be a very very good thing when it comes to hooking up with your ex.

When the two of you broke up, what did you feel? Were you crying for weeks with no end? Did you feel relieved? Did it not faze you at all? There are a lot of emotions, but let's focus on the negative ones. If you felt like shit when the two of you broke up, that means there was something bigger there. This meant something to you and you got hurt. Listen to that feeling. What is it telling you? Are you over them? This is a tough question to ask. If you are not over them, then we would insist that you not do it. Hooking up with an ex that you are not over yet will give you mixed feelings and it will draw the hurt out longer and that isn't something you want. That will make things so much more worse.

If you are over them, then this is a good sign. Knowing that you don't have feelings for someone you once dated is a good sign that you can have sex with them and put your emotions aside.

Keep asking yourself questions. Like how would it feel if they said that they didn't want to hook up with you? That is something you should think about for at least a hot second. If you get rejected by someone that you once were so intimate with, then what will you feel like? Do you think you would care? Would you be angry or sad? You need to be able to handle the fact that you might not get a yes out of your ex.

It takes two exes to make this happen. You might be over the whole relationship. You might have moved on already. This could mean absolutely nothing to you. However, that doesn't mean that they feel the same way. They might want to hook up because they might think it could lead the two of you back together. If this is the case, you need to know how to handle a situation like this. How do you tell them that you just want them for sex and the option of getting back together is off the table. Have something planned. If they start to act relationship-y, you need to pull back and let them know that this was solely a physical act. If they can't handle that, you need to break things off and make sure that you don't do anything to make them believe further that you might have emotions for them. Nip this is in the bud right now. No need to hurt someone further.

If you have decided that sleeping with your ex is a good idea, then you need to set some ground rules. These are always a good idea when it comes to making sure you keep things casual. You can make your own, of course, but these are examples of ones you should be using to help you out.

Normally, we love to cuddle. Everyone likes being held. However, when you are held by someone, there is always the chance that you will feel relaxed and comfortable and it will stimulate your senses. Holding someone is how you trick your mind into thinking that you two are together. Don't do that. It will confuse you, it will confuse your emotions and it will confuse the situation. You just need to ignore it and you will be fine. So, after sex. Leave. Easy as pie.

This is the most important rule. You are not allowed to have emotions about anything. Emotions mean that you have some sort of feelings for them and feelings for them are bad, if you want to keep this casual. The moment that either of you starts having emotions for the other person again, you need to break things off. We mean any emotion as well. If you get jealous that someone else is texting them, then you need to back off. All emotions towards them are not a good way of keeping this casual.

We aren't saying that you and your ex shouldn't be friends. Who knows! Maybe you are better off as buddies in the end. However, if you are trying to establish a casual hookup, then you need to take the idea of being friends with your ex completely out of the picture. When you start hooking up and you're also trying to be friends, it can make things that much more awkward. Not to mention, in general, it'll just be harder to deal with anyways. So, if you want to have casual sex with your ex, then don't be their friend.

This is honestly just for damage control. We live in the time where we don't have a thought left unsaid when it comes to the internet and to social media. So, if you want a successful hookup with your ex, you need to stay off social media. Don't creep them. Don't see who they are hanging out with. As well, you need to not make it public. Don't make posts about how hooking up with your ex is hot. There is no reason for you to publicly be out in the open with this if you want it to work out. The more people you tell, means the more people you are inviting in to judge you and judge the situation you are in. They will tell you that it's wrong or that they are excited that you getting back together. Basically, it'll just becoming annoying and make things that much more confusing. So, if you plan to tap it, don't tell anyone you are doing it. Save yourself the trouble in the end.

In the end, it is entirely your choice on what you might want to do when it comes to sleeping with your ex, but hopefully we have given you something to think about. We just hope you take some of our advice and think a bit about it before you pick up that phone and make that booty call connection.

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